Your Spouse Can't Make You Whole

So often we hear folks say that their spouse is not fulfilling their emotional needs.
You need to take responsibility for filling your own needs.

Four Basic Emotional Needs

The need to l0ve and be l0ved.

The need to belong and have a sense of purpose in life.
The need to have a positive self image.

The need for autonomy, that is a need for some personal, private space and control.

Some may add the need for security to this list of emotional needs.

We believe that people who love and are loved, who have a sense of belonging and can see purpose to their lives, who believe in themselves, and who have a sense of control over their own lives are secure individuals.

Meeting Your Emotions

Expecting your spouse to fill your emotional needs is not only unfair, it is unreasonable. You should take responsibility for filling your emotional needs yourself. "If you are looking up to a partner to make you feel worthwhile, to make you feel happy, to rescue you from a bored or unhappy life, if you are seeking someone to make you feel complete or whole -- we'll then you have some work to do, because these are needs that are never going to be met. Take heed, else you wait until it's too late.